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A beginner's guide to (trans)gender (v3)

should you be looking for quick answers, here they are

Newest on femidity.ch:

Behold summer

Damn good nails

having to be washed off, with the nature of dysphoria unfolding and how to tame the beast

Transgender wave

The little things, the big things and the things in-between

A therapeutic post

Ups and downs

The big New York post - Part 2

My definition of feminism

The big New York post - Part 1

Glam must be sometimes

Super Bowl LI, because it is still important

Turning tendencies

Gender revolution

Acrylic nails 2.0

blended into a Christmas post, which I would not call a big Christmas post, but a more quiet one

Queer across society

Nude-nude-nude, dark color, glitter

with a mini nail project as preparation for the big nail project

(My) Gender Wonderland

What do I do for fun?

The big San Francisco post - Part 2

The big San Francisco post - Part 1

Inkognitó (Incognito) - by Tibor Noé Kiss

Transtagung 2016 Switzerland - Part 2

A half day

Transtagung 2016 Switzerland - Part 1

Girl mode at home

with testing a 60 sec nail polish drying product

 My own echo

Transparent

Further notes on gender

Gotcha, that is what it means!?

Thoughts around some sandals

my world, no rules and by entering, you are accepting terms

Travelling worlds

Queereality

We need to speak

The freak factor

A Queer and Pleasant DANGER

Side notes on hatred

Crossdressing game: Level 6 - Part 2

Crossdressing game: Level 6 - Part 1

Summer nails, summer shoes

with Little Richard, the real king of Rock ‘n’ Roll

The girl in high heels

She's Not There - A Life in Two Genders

Life on a pharmacy balance

interview with Zsófia A. Szabó

The elephant and the butterfly

A small miracle each day

Aviatrix Jessica Taylor

meet an American transgender airline pilot

Jessica Taylor is a Denver, Colorado based commercial passenger airplane pilot. She is flying primarily the Canadair Regional Jet 700 series out of Aspen, Colorado and then from Aspen to Los Angeles, San Francisco, Houston, Chicago, Minneapolis and Atlanta.

Bornstein vs Boylan

Transgender Day of Visibility

6 years Switzerland

Respect and gentleness

I would like to re-feature the Easter post from last year, I think it is a very comprehensive and emotional one.

Once in a lifetime

Transition

Cisnormative trans, heteronormative conservative

Daughters of Saul

Sacred places

and how I reserve the right for myself to shop where I want

A practical outfit

Envy and longing

The Star-Spangled Banner

The mad, the mother and the trans

I guess there is hope

trying on the Long Tall Sally calf high leather boots, and a real trans experience

Men's world

Head Over Heels - a book review

The transgender experience

The trans sadness

Woman's World - a crossdressing novel

Solutions not resolutions

You wouldn't understand it anyhow

Making the difference - meet Noé

something changed in the past days, because of this life example

Do clothes make the man?

the sequel to Emancipation of the women’s dress code with some boot science

Love ya' Santa

WMA Statement on Transgender People

Happy Birthday femidity.ch

Notes on gender

Crossdressing game: Level 5

Boy style

I, you, but he or she - Gender Outlaw

The big Greece post - Part 2

The big Greece post - Part 1

The gender paradigm - Why integrate the transgender?

Measured on conformity

Small things make the difference

Grrl Alex - A book review

Emancipation of the women's dress code

Redefining Realness - A book review

A nail polish revolution

are we there already that it is ok for men to wear nail polish in public?

I am (just) Cait

My transgender ABC 2015

8 out of 225

Would it be easier?

Because different is beautiful

2nd high heels quiz

illustrated with flats and red nail polish

The Man in the Red Velvet Dress

Are you a woman?

Crossdressing game: Level 4 is a very tough one

The big Budapest post - Part 2

The big Budapest post - Part 1

5% of a woman

just a little post about some brands I like, two serious nail polish accidents, and a pair of silky smooth legs

Daily dressing - Can it be done as a man?

Water of the cold Zürich lake

The never-ending fair of Vanity

What does it mean to be transgender?

Bucket list French nails - Chapter 2

the second part of the nail adventure, with the removal results and a Good Bye to Stacey

Navel piercing - OMG

Trans*forming the Dialogue - Simmons College

The gender black hole

Bucket list French nails - Chapter 1

the first part of “the little nail adventure”, how they were made, how they felt, can dos and cannot dos

Hannah Gotta - Interview

My view on the Bruce Jenner interview

Katie Amor - Interview

My Week - the blog entries from the week

People and Sites

featuring interviews with interesting people as well as reviews of blogs and other sites related to crossdressing

Life on a pharmacy balance

interview with Zsófia A. Szabó

Aviatrix Jessica Taylor

meet an American transgender airline pilot

Making the difference - meet Noé

something changed in the past days, because of this life example

Hannah Gotta - Interview

Hannah is a gorgeous Minnesota girl, who runs her own support organization as well as a beautiful blog with her own graphics

Katie Amor - Interview

meet a beautiful, warm hearted and passionate girl from Memphis, who is really right at her place

Recent Posts:

May the bag bring joy to someone, if it is a present

Testosterone cage

The view of the emancipated crossdresser's wife vs the semi-emancipated?

My Sound of Music - "So-Do-La-Fa-Me-Do-Re"

Loretta wants to have babies

Taking care of the brushes

Respect and gentleness

Project flats - Long Tall Sally

Anklet or bracelet?

Nail Wars - Episode V

Charging the girly batteries

Who is the "situation"? Or rather what is the "situation"?

Products Flashback:

Heels again

Article Flashback:

KIKO brushes

Review Flashback:

A journey of two

Older Posts:

It is just so much fun to be a woman

beautician visit, new mint green nails, dressing and a simple blue top, skirts and heels (plus a story)

And then things suddenly start working

SALES 50%

The crossdressers' New Year's resolution

So, about the wardrobe

Bottlenecks of dressing

A high heels quiz

The Art (of nail polish)

How to shave (down there)

Body care basics

Moisturizing

Internet shopping

The man in floral pants and the red high heel pumps

Girls and their nails

A journey of two

A gender tolerant world

Why do we crossdress?

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Pictures of Life

blog kind of posts, stories, events with lots of dressing, heels, nails, make-up and other girly stuff

Behold summer

(the not “I just jumped into a bikini to hit the pool side” kind of stories)

The little things, the big things and the things in-between

with the crystal ball of crossdressing

A therapeutic post

when life in the binary society becomes a hedge maze and there is no way out

Ups and downs

no boy, no girl, just a person

The big New York post - Part 2

I'm in a New York state of mind

The big New York post - Part 1

start spreading the news, I'm leaving today

Glam must be sometimes

imagination, day dreaming, fantasy

Queer across society

and when masculinity and femininity blend into another

What do I do for fun?

the insidious hobby question with the absolution of truth

The big San Francisco post - Part 2

transgender Rock ‘n’ Roll

The big San Francisco post - Part 1

the only correct answer to give is: it is a mandala butterfly

Two down

7.5 billion to go

A half day

if you would like to spend a half day with me to see my new life, this is the chance

I am not gone

starting real blog entries

My own echo

a minimal hedonistic home project

Travelling worlds

the very philosophical, yet closeted, occasional, selfie-stick crossdresser

Queereality

at least the nail polish does not need to come off

Crossdressing game: Level 6 - Part 2

I did it; it was fun and so much effort as if I was getting married

Crossdressing game: Level 6 - Part 1

the preparations begin for a first real outing

The girl in high heels

with some binary girl categories, gender clocking and gender projection

The elephant and the butterfly

dimensions, minorities and the right to express

A small miracle each day

beyond transgender and beyond modern feminism

6 years Switzerland

life as opportunities and as they come

Once in a lifetime

there are things that only happen and can be experienced on a single occasion

Transition

what is transitioning really, because I am not going anywhere

 A practical outfit

and why clothes should be naturally actually unisex

Envy and longing

observation, inspiration, trendy, daily looks, temptation, conscious purchases

The mad, the mother and the trans

the story of a bench

Men's world

10 things I absolutely hate about guys as a guy, and having been amongst guys a lot

Solutions not resolutions

a note to start off 2016

You wouldn't understand it anyhow

why on Earth would a man want to become a woman

Love ya' Santa

be good boy or bad boy?

Crossdressing game: Level 5

a girlfriend I have never met

Boy style

girlfriend or boyfriend jeans? who cares?

The big Greece post - Part 2

hoax and vanity

The big Greece post - Part 1

how hedonistic is a mid-October summer holiday?

Measured on conformity

and why oranges and bananas taste so different

Small things make the difference

while the whole gender thing happens in the head

Emancipation of the women's dress code

a look at how women dress today, how men’s clothes change, thoughts about the integration of dressing over the need for full dressing, and then some full dressing

8 out of 225

the story of a hasty photo shoot, illusion and celebrities

Would it be easier?

philosophy in a gay bar: how do you compare how hard it is to be different in different ways, I think there is no way to do so

Crossdressing game: Level 4 is a very tough one

story of a first time, a first time out and amongst people, a remarkable, rewarding experience, but which needs more preps and some practice

The big Budapest post - Part 2

while the first part of the Budapest post explored the impressions the city gave, this one is more focusing on my shopping and beauty experiences related to crossdressing there

The big Budapest post - Part 1

if there are magical places, this town is surely one, where you come to eat, to drink, to feel, to think, and to put this whole into a poem, might be even worth a thing

Water of the cold Zürich lake

exploring the borderline between self expression and just looking ridiculous, and loving the summer sandal trends

Navel piercing - OMG

a very tough weekend story

The gender black hole

an imaginary discussion with some downs, but turning to the positive note by the end

May the bag bring joy to someone, if it is a present

the honest story of a handbag purchase and the rule of two noticeable items in a single look

Testosterone cage

just being happy with a new blue top and complaining about effects of the male hormone (we only have one)

My Sound of Music - "So-Do-La-Fa-Me-Do-Re"

this movie is a feeling and is a great one, it is the dressing of the soul, with facts you did not know about music and this wonderful film musical

Loretta wants to have babies

a dressing session which went very well, many nice photos and an bit of Monty Python philosophy about crossdressing

 Charging the girly batteries

a nice dressing session, where I almost gave up half way, because of the contact lenses, which are great, but can be a curse

Life phases - Part 1

Life phases - Part 2

instead of writing another childhood memories of dressing kind of story, I paired my crossdressing life phases with feminine music I was listening to

The farmer and the violet dress

my phone is a crossdresser, I cannot beleive what happened in the farm simulation game we play today

Playing with our senses

a beatiful and very rewarding weekend, some Kuhn and Rikon stuff and crossdressing moulded out of silicone

The heart of Europe

though I would turn a business day trip to Brussels into a day which also has to do with crossdressing

Crossdressing game: Level 2 unlocked

an analogy to popular smartphone gaming of me getting just a little bit more experienced in dressing and creating my looks

Mr. Mom

the sensual story of a wonderful family weekend, some dressing, fun with friends and a wonderful cake

Transgender Philosophy

exploring who we are, how we relate to gender, how we fit into society

Transgender wave

giving myself a break with some good old fashioned masculine motorcycling

My definition of feminism

International Women’s Day!?

Super Bowl LI, because it is still important

with my thoughts on the biological feminists

Turning tendencies

and the decades needed for the formation of one’s self-presentation

Gender revolution

National Geographic, change, Hungary, the gender debate

(My) Gender Wonderland

a review of a documentary and a personalized way of living as a woman

Inkognitó (Incognito) - by Tibor Noé Kiss

you are not told; you are made to feel; a book review with the COGIATI test

Transtagung 2016 Switzerland - Part 2

because the solution must be right

Transtagung 2016 Switzerland - Part 1

preparations and expectations for and before my first transgender conference

Transparent

Hirschfeld, "Moppa" Pfefferman and utopistic family love

Further notes on gender

would I like to have a feather boa? with some DIY jeans hot pants

Gotcha, that is what it means!?

 with further notes on gender terminology

We need to speak

the emotional opening speech of the Budapest Pride

The freak factor

decomposing the presentation and perception of binary gender non-conformity

A Queer and Pleasant DANGER

we told the truth when we could, we lied when we had to

Side notes on hatred

messages to be digested, things to do, voices to be raised

She's Not There - A Life in Two Genders

the 2003 bestselling memoir of Jenny Boylan

Bornstein vs Boylan

with interpretation of drag and mourning related to transitioning

Transgender Day of Visibility

31 March 2016

Cisnormative trans, heteronormative conservative

second series of „I am Cait” kicks off with controversy and loads of politics

Daughters of Saul

genocide, mass extinction, transgenderism and a small nation at the Academy Awards

The Star-Spangled Banner

and what does the Super Bowl tell us about what America is doing for the transgender cause

 Head Over Heels - a book review

is next level feminism required to integrate transgender into society?

The transgender experience

what all different presentations you should be expecting to see

The trans sadness

and why I did not like The Danish Girl

Woman's World - a crossdressing novel

and some myths to be busted related to crossdressing and gender non-conformity

WMA Statement on Transgender People

with my little personal comments, as being affected

Happy Birthday femidity.ch

with a tribute to trans supporter Christina Aguilera

Notes on gender

sticky notes to spread around with the key messages on gender

I, you, but he or she - Gender Outlaw

the Kate Bornstein book review, with not having to prove not gay

The gender paradigm - Why integrate the transgender?

an imaginary discussion with society

Grrl Alex - A book review

a whole new way to look at gender identity

Redefining Realness - A book review

the life story of Janet Mock

I am (just) Cait

a TV show needs to be good especially if it is about transgenderism

My transgender ABC 2015

a funny inventory of what interests me and all what I see going on

Because different is beautiful

a review of the fantastic movie Boy Meets Girl, with trans actress Michelle Handley

The Man in the Red Velvet Dress

does the evolution of the fetishist exist, do you become a crossdresser, is your brain sensitized by female hormones, and a very interesting view on the early transgender movement of the last century

Are you a woman?

even to get close to the answer we need to explore what is, what makes a woman and what is the gender mammoth

Daily dressing - Can it be done as a man?

 am experimenting around what can be worn and integrated into a man’s daily life which are a little more interesting than what we are supposed to wear, with a piercing update

 The never-ending fair of Vanity

trying to summarize differently what is happening than what I see out there, and to equip the reader with background information to help to process what is rolling

What does it mean to be transgender?

the crossdressing definition of trans, with two new featured looks to lighten up a bit the hard philosophy

Trans*forming the Dialogue - Simmons College

a campaign to promote an educational conversation about the transgender community

 My view on the Bruce Jenner interview

it is my view, as someone who knew little about Bruce Jenner and the Kardashians before, making me hopefully unbiased

The view of the emancipated crossdresser's wife vs the semi-emancipated?

many will have a different opinion about My Husband Wears My Clothes vs My Husband Betty, and I was also surprised to learn that I had such a definite and strong one, so here it is

Respect and gentleness

was thinking if it is not only myself for who I am writing this one, but even if you cannot imagine Easter like that, there will be something still to take home

 Anklet or bracelet?

I am just mourning over a Bijou Brigitte floral fashion necklace I bought, but had to throw out as they turned out to be faulty

Who is the "situation"? Or rather what is the "situation"?

a rewrite of an initially very fierceful article on the binary gender concept burnt on us, which I decided to loosen up a bit with a pair of new and very ordinary shoes

How is you color vision? Does it impact your dressing? - The color challenge

 the style and mission statement of femidity.ch and a very interesting color perception test method

Acceptance, tolerance and wheat beer

why do I compare dressing to wheat beer, and why do I do not feel special because I am dressing?

 Marsala, Color of the Year 2015

thought a lot if this post belongs under products or under philosophy, but finally it landed here together with pictures taken with my new Nikon D5100 camera, tried to create a beautiful set with Marsala

Is gender really so important? - Part 1 

Is gender really so important? - Part 2

Is gender really so important? - Part 3

 a long 3 part review of the book by Helen Boyd, but certainly with a personal touch and lots of thinking about gender and trans-ness

 Sustained dressing

a few thoughts on what I can recommend to keep dressing easy and part of your daily lives

So where do I come into picture here?

not an easy topic: the viewpoint of the spouse, with some facts to accept, questions to ask and some advice

Nails and Body Care

Damn good nails

having to be washed off, with the nature of dysphoria unfolding and how to tame the beast

Acrylic nails 2.0

blended into a Christmas post, which I would not call a big Christmas post, but a more quiet one

Nude-nude-nude, dark color, glitter

with a mini nail project as preparation for the big nail project

Girl mode at home

with testing a 60 sec nail polish drying product

Thoughts around some sandals

my world, no rules and by entering, you are accepting terms

Summer nails, summer shoes

with Little Richard, the real king of Rock ‘n’ Roll

A nail polish revolution

are we there already that it is ok for men to wear nail polish in public?

Bucket list French nails - Chapter 1

the first part of “the little nail adventure”, how they were made, how they felt, can dos and cannot dos

Bucket list French nails - Chapter 2

the second part of the nail adventure, with the removal results and a Good Bye to Stacey

Taking care of the brushes

how do you take care of your brushes? how do you create your looks? read about a special soap and two great looks

Nail Wars - Episode V

the force is with me and nails are still looking ok, but ready for the next round of my gel nail experience in my little galaxy far, far away…

Older recommended posts:

Three and a half hours for beauty

A nail update

A second nail update

we are at 4 weeks

So the gel nail experiment continues

a nail update just because I think I am close to come to a verdict about gel lacquer

Products and Services

Sacred places

and how I reserve the right for myself to shop where I want

I guess there is hope

trying on the Long Tall Sally calf high leather boots, and a real trans experience

Do clothes make the man?

the sequel to Emancipation of the women’s dress code with some boot science

2nd high heels quiz

illustrated with flats and red nail polish

5% of a woman

just a little post about some brands I like, two serious nail polish accidents, and a pair of silky smooth legs

Project flats - Long Tall Sally

they really made my day as the box was delivered from abroad in just a week, having had passed customs, and both shoes are just absolutely fabulous, so my suggestion is: get some flats

Heels again

it is not about a specific product, but serious high heel business, and a story of a shoe purchase

Swarovski rhinestone bracelet

how much I wanted a bracelet like this and how much creativity it took to create a cheaper illusion which actually fits

Let it snow, let it snow, let it snow

Kryolan professional TV (theather and television applied) foundations and how to use them correctly, with some crappy Christmas movies

Older recommended posts:

A trans business

Internet shopping

Selfnation Jeans

Fiction - the Gabi stories

A day of Gabi (Part1) - A day of Gabi (Part2) - A bad Saturday - A new encounter - Normal life!? - A schock, a rendezvouz and another schock - Gabi strikes back - A sincere request - The 500 frank note - Life after David - When hairy met Sally - Capital S and capital G - Roses and tears - Now we know the full name

In this section so far available is a sequential story of a young crossdresser called Gabi living 24/7 in girl mode, working and trying to figure out her friendships and relationships. I recommend reading these in sequence, meaning if you go to Fiction starting from the last (oldest post) or you can use these links. The Gabi stories are not of sexual nature, but there is certainly a kind of kink to them. We will see what is the future for such content on femidity.ch